If I say I am going to give you money or pay for you to learn, would you ever trust me again when you found out that I don’t have any intentions of doing what I say?

Would you wonder why I would do this, especially to my own kin?

Would you wonder if I lie to you about going away?  Build your expectations for my return, never having ever had any intentions to fulfill those expectations.

Would you wonder why you have to call me Mother?